Pastor's Wife, Mom, Writer & Imperfect Seeker of Jesus
Pastors' Wives--A Servant's Work
July 11, 2015
Ministry life is hard. In our experience, the craziness tends to come in waves. But when it comes, it arrives fast and furious, consuming all that it can. I still remember the one single week in which Ryan had a wedding, two funerals and three other church meetings all in the course of 7 days. Even recently we had another bout of non-stop busyness. From the day we arrived home after Spring Break until Memorial Day was a total of 49 days. Of those 49 days, Ryan was gone late into the night, working on his day off, or completely out of town for 36 of them. For those of you aren’t math nerds like me, that means he was gone 73% of the days for almost 2 months.
As a minister’s wife you know that it isn’t always your own personal schedule that makes life crazy (even though it can be), but those nights and weekends when your husband is gone, YOU become a single parent attempting to juggle all of the weirdly shaped bowling pins of work, kids’ schedules, home care, laundry, emergencies, etc. I’ve honestly gotten to the point where I looked to the heavens and implored to God, “Seriously, can I just get a break for a minute?”
Thank goodness for His Word. There really is nothing more convicting yet more soothing to my soul than those living words. Today Jesus said to me, “Suppose one of you has a servant plowing or looking after the sheep. Will he say to the servant when he comes in from the field, ‘Come along now and sit down to eat’? Won’t he rather say, ‘Prepare my supper, get yourself ready and wait on me while I eat and drink; after that you may eat and drink’? Will he thank the servant because he did what he was told to do? So you also, when you have done everything you are told to do, should say, 'We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’” (Luke 17:7-10 NIV)
At first glance that may seem a bit harsh, but it is true. A servant/worker’s job is to serve. Period. If I am going to think of myself as a servant of Christ, then I need to accept that role as best I can.
But as you are down in the trenches, exhausted and dirty, turn your head to the side. Do you see Him? He’s kneeling right there beside you with a basin of warm water and a fresh towel. You watch the water splash over the edge of the bowl as He submerges the cloth into it. He wrings the cloth over the basin and you barely hear the drops softly fall back into the liquid over the sound of the other men in the room—men who are bickering over who is going to be the greatest in Christ’s kingdom. With each set of feet that He washes, the water grows murky and dirty and the room falls to a hush.
It is then that He looks over at you with imploring eyes and gently but firmly speaks, “I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” (John 13:15-17 NIV)