Pastor's Wife, Mom, Writer & Imperfect Seeker of Jesus
Pastors' Wives--We Are Garbage
August 19, 2015
This is actually the first blog post to Pastor's Wives that I ever wrote back when I was initially attempting to create a website (the process of getting here has taken almost two years!!) It's still applicable to my heart today, so I thought I'd share it with you:
This past year has been one of the hardest years for me in our 20 years of ministry. There have been some hurts that have been unexpected, deep and left lasting results. I realize that many of you have also experienced great trials in ministry and may even be going through them right now. And then there are some who have no idea what I am talking about. Truly, I pray that you never do, but let’s be honest---we live in a fallen world, serve human beings and are certainly imperfect ourselves. So the chances of going through a lifelong ministry with no scars is pretty unrealistic.
That being said, my intentions here are never to church-bash. The Church is the Bride of Christ, and for that reason alone, she is beautiful in God’s eyes. How we handle this calling is up to us. But today, I want you to know that you are in good company. No, you are in GREAT company!
I actually laughed out loud a few months ago and ran dripping wet from the tub (sorry for the image) to share with Ryan what the apostle Paul had to say to those in church leadership in Corinth about what being a servant for Christ REALLY looks like.
“Instead, I sometimes think God has put us apostles on display, like prisoners of war at the end of a victor’s parade, condemned to die. We have become a spectacle to the entire world—to people and angels alike. Our dedication to Christ makes us look like fools, but you claim to be so wise in Christ! We are weak, but you are so powerful! You are honored, but we are ridiculed. Even now we go hungry and thirsty, and we don’t have enough clothes to keep warm. We are often beaten and have no home. We work wearily with our own hands to earn our living. We bless those who curse us. We are patient with those who abuse us. We appeal gently when evil things are said about us. Yet we are treated like the world’s garbage, like everybody’s trash—right up to the present moment.” (1 Corinthians 4:9-13 NLT)
Yup! That’s what Paul says being an apostle for Christ feels like sometimes. Discarded garbage. But praise God, you aren’t alone! That is my sincere hope in this page for Pastor’s Wives---that you no longer feel alone. Loneliness is one of the most stated struggles for minister’s wives. So from this point forward, please don’t feel you have to struggle by yourself. Let’s be garbage together!!!!